How to Socialize Your Dog in 10 Easy Steps

When I brought my little baby girl home from the shelter, I didn’t even know socializing dogs was a thing. Luckily, she came out OK anyway. But not all dogs fare so well. They may become aggressive or so timid that they leave puddles whenever they meet a new friend.

You are smart to learn how to socialize your dog. Because, yes, it’s a thing. Having a well-socialized dog will give both of you the freedom to go out and have fun in a vast world of attractive options.

Like people, some dogs are adept at social graces, while others are a bit more like your Uncle Ned meeting Lady Gaga. Don’t wait until your ‘Uncle Ned’ has learned his first lousy joke.

The best time to socialize your little tail-wagger is when she (or he) is still a puppy. But, if Mrs. Whiskers didn’t make the social circuit as a tot, not to worry. Worldly dogs can make new buds too.

What You'll Need to Start Socialization 

Dog with leash in mouth

Socializing your dog doesn’t require lots of gear. The most important things you need are:

  • Time
  • Lots of patience
  • A leash

For social training, you’ll definitely need a leash that is a predictable length. That way, your dog knows just how far from you she’s allowed to bounce. Here’s an article on finding the best dog leash that will help you make a good choice.

Optional Items:

  • A bit of money if you decide to take a class or enlist a trainer.
  • For more challenging dogs, a muzzle or electronic training collar.

Notice that treats are not on the list. When dogs are stressed, they won’t take food and snacks, which may incite competitive or protective behavior.

Pro Tip: If you decide that a muzzle makes sense for you, connect with a specialist - such as a vet or a trainer - about the right fit and best ways to use it. You don’t want to make your dog even more unnerved. Here’s an interesting video introducing a muzzle to a dog to help make the muzzle a pleasant experience.

How to Socialize Your Dog In 10 Easy Steps

Three dogs socializing

1. Know Your Dog's Personality

Not all dogs are Cary Grant suave. They are born with certain genetic traits, while other quirks are developed along the way.

No matter how she became who she is, knowing your dog's personality will help you understand how to help her become a healthier society member.

Most dogs have a fight-or-flight response to uncomfortable situations. Whether they lean toward fight or flight depends on their personality.

A highly-sensitive dog requires a gentle hand and a slow pace. Sensitive dogs are more attuned to you and their environment, so they don’t need emphatic suggestions and, for them, sometimes happy noises can even be distracting.

So, be low key.

Let them move at their own pace. Don’t make lots of noise. Even words of encouragement, especially in a high-pitched tone, can be stressful to reserved dogs. 

If you do speak, use a calm, quiet tone.

Other dogs may be more the margarita-on-the-beach go-with-the-flow types.

Knowing how to socialize your dog if she has this personality requires an eye toward the other end of the spectrum. With these pups, you’ll want to be more pronounced and, since they’ve never met a stranger who didn’t love dog slobber, you may need to steer your fur flinger with a bit more focus.

Check out The Online Dog Trainer for tips on how to teach your dog to remain calm and in control of his responses to challenging stimuli.

Pro Tip: Pro Tip: If you don’t trust your dog to be friendly before you’ve fully socialized her, you may want to consider using a muzzle or other restraint. Before using any restraint, learn how to make it a pleasant experience. Otherwise, you could amplify the stress. Check out this article for help: Aggressive Dog Training: How to Stop Different Forms of Aggression

Pup getting a health check

2. Assess Your Dog's Physical Condition

A tired dog is a happy dog. Whatever your dog’s personality, exercise is a great equalizer. It will help both a Nervous Nellie and a Good-Time Charlie feel—and act—more calm and balanced. An attitude that plays well with the snouted set.

On the other hand, a dog under the weather won’t be inspired to make polite canine conversation. And, although dog germs are unlikely to affect us two-leggers, dogs can share harmful microbes among themselves.

Yes, dogs can get and spread the flu, among other things.

No matter how your dog feels, before you take her places where there will be lots of other pups, check with your vet to be sure that she’s healthy and adequately inoculated for kennel cough and other icky ailments.

Full vaccination programs for puppies are not completed until the puppy is around 16 weeks old, but this is also an important time for socialization.

So, check with your vet about what they recommend during this important time.

Pro Tip: For dogs primarily motivated by food, being hungry might elevate their drive state. This may not be the best time to go for a meet-and-greet. After all, who isn’t calmer with a full belly?

Owner and dog full of energy

3. Check Your Energy Level

Your dog is a mirror. If you are cranky, angry, afraid, or any of the other seven dwarves, your dog will sense it.

In response, she will either take on your demeanor or try to protect you because, to her, you seem vulnerable.

An essential step in having a calm, receptive dog is for you to be relaxed and receptive. As a bonus, socializing with your dog when you are in a good mood makes the experience better for both of you.

Moderate your excitement.

When you appreciate good house training, a high-pitched excited voice is useful. But if you are introducing the dog to a situation where she might already be tense, don’t amp her adrenaline.

If your dog has a history of weak social interactions, be prepared, but don’t expect history to repeat.

Every day is a new day for your dog. Don’t be a bellboy for her baggage.

Pro Tip: To encourage your dog to be calm, calm yourself with meditation, deep breathing, even a snack before setting off for a socialization adventure.

Step 4 - Take Baby Steps

No matter which end of the social spectrum your dog is on, it’s usually best to start socializing her slowly. Depending on your dog’s current social skills level, you may even want to start with just one friendly dog and a person you like.

Because dogs are territorial, either meet at your place or on neutral turf to give your dog the upper hand, uh, paw.

Keep an eye on the dogs, but don’t focus on them. Let them sniff each other out without watching parental eyes. Enjoy time with your friend and they will be more likely to enjoy time with theirs.

If, however, the dogs just don’t gel, be prepared for a quick exit. Before you arrive, you may want to practice your social skills by training your friend for the possibility of a prematurely curtailed visit.

Dogs socializing in the park

5. Choose Socialization Locations Wisely

When you feel that your pup is ready to advance past one-on-ones, a pleasant stroll might be in order. But, you will still want to avoid crowds.

Consider places that are more likely to have well-behaved dogs. A pet store during a low-traffic time could be fun.

Many hardware stores allow dogs if your dog is too treat-oriented to survive the glorious enticements at a pet store.

This is where I take my girl when it’s raining. Some of them even keep crunch bones at the register.

Check out this video of "Greg"; it gives you a dog's eye view of a hardware store.

Pro Tip: A dog park is more advanced. Try easing into the scene at non-peak times. This can buff off a bit of the novelty before you take her for full-frontal fun.

Two dogs doing the rump sniff

6. Support the Crucial Rump Sniff, a Loose Leash, and other Canine Social Conventions.

Not allowing your dog to inspect another’s mission control positions your guy as an antisocial snob.

For a dog, not exchanging sniffs is the equivalent of a human walking up to another human, pausing, looking them squarely in the face, and then walking away with no words exchanged.

It’s just weird—an incomplete transaction.

Humans gauge each other through words; dogs do it through smells.

The smell of another dog’s rear provides a full bouquet of knowledge about their diet, gender, genetics, health, and more to a dog.

A taut leash can also pose a social challenge for a dog. A dog moves and postures to communicate specific intentions. If a pesky human pulling hinders her on her leash, she may give off unintended signals.

As much as possible—and prudent—allowing a dog to have a loose leash when meeting another will foster a significant transaction.

Pro Tip: If your dog doesn’t yet understand the caboose-sniffing dance, help by rotating her so that the other dog can approach in polite dog fashion. It may be a bit awkward, but if your dog is small, you could even pick her up and hold her rear near the other dog’s nose. Obviously, this is best done with folks who know you already.

Two leashed dogs meeting

7. Don't Push

Remember how much calmer you were as a kid when your mom wasn’t hovering over your shoulder, directing your every move?

Give your furball the same freedom. Allow her to approach another dog at her own pace.

If she is a puppy, she may approach with too much enthusiasm, and the other dog may be churlish.


That’s how older dogs teach puppies manners. It may seem like the older dog is aggressive, but the probability is that she’s just being educational.

A shy dog will need a different kind of freedom—the freedom to approach slowly.

Be patient.

Timid dog meeting aggressive dog

8. Watch the Tails

Tail wagging is a primary means of communication for dogs. Dogs don’t wag their tails when they're alone, not even if they're enjoying a glorious porterhouse. Researchers have found that it’s something they only do around others.

Each wag has a specific meaning according to its combination of height, speed, width, and direction. 

Learn to read dog tail signals, and you will build a stronger bond with your pup and have a clue when trouble may be brewing before it happens.

For more info on dog language, check out Your Dog “Speaks” – How to Read Your Dog’s Body Language.  

9. Remember You're Only Human

Socializing a dog is not a one-and-done activity. It requires consistent practice.

So, don’t be hard on yourself if it takes a while. Just keep at it and try to enjoy the ride.

Two pups in training class

10. Help is Available

Puppy classes offer a control if you can call it that, environment for your puppy to learn the ins-and-outs of puppy manners. As a bonus, she may also learn a few tricks.

For expert skills, hire a trainer. Many professionals are well versed in how to spot and correct problems. When selecting your trainer, keep in mind that positive reinforcement methods have been proven to be more effective than aversions, such as shouting.

Did you enjoy reading this tutorial on how to socialize your dog? I know I enjoyed writing it. Having a well-mannered companion has allowed my pup and I to have many safe and happy excursions.

I hope this tutorial gives you the same results!

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