How to Train Your Dog Basic Commands (The Hairy Trinity)
Do you wish your pup had impeccable manners? But instead, you have a furry little maniac.
It’s probably just a matter of miscommunication. Cross-cultural communications can be a challenge with humans and, with dogs, it can be like Kilimanjaro. Thousands of years of genetic programming have dogs poised and ready to please you.
So, it’s not hard to learn how to train your dog basic commands. You just need to teach them a few essential words.
These three are The Hairy Trinity: ‘sit,’ ‘stay,’ ‘come.’
What You Need to Train Your Dog Basic Commands
Anatomy of A Command
When dogs communicate verbally, they use tone, tempo, and volume to convey their message. We humans, on the other hand, use words. The great divide can be crossed with the appropriate and consistent use of words and/or sounds.
If you decide to vary from the standard command terms, it is usually best to keep the command to one word and choose commands with a different vocal sound.
For example, if sung as music, it would be tough to confuse ‘Sit’ and ‘Down.’ This is why ‘Sit,’ and ‘Down’ are generally two different commands.
Considering this, understanding one word in another language is relatively easy for a person, while learning a phrase can be difficult. This is true for your pup too.

Presenting Your Command
Saying the command multiple times or continuously talking can turn your poor pup’s brain into a mushy ball of confusion. With training, your sweet little paws will clearly understand one-word commands.
But trying to ‘enhance’ the command by repeating it numerous times in rapid succession or, heaven help us, trying to turn the command into a sentence or two - or ten - will not promote your cause.
So, when you mean ‘Sit,’ try to avoid saying “Sit…Sit…Sit” or coaxing with something like, “Will my sweet little Snookems, please sit for momma? You’re such a good little girl. I know you can do it…”
Tone also makes a difference in your pup’s understanding. If you shout the command one time then whisper it another, your dog will, in essence, need to learn that these two commands mean the same thing.
A calm, assertive tone is generally recommended. But if you’re not that sort, choose your style and stick with it.
PRO TIP: Because dogs are often more visual than verbal, pairing hand signals with commands can help your fur-footed friend recognize commands more quickly. Check this out for more on canine body language.
Signaling Success
How do you know when you have succeeded?
Rewards are essential for your little learner too.
Each dog is different. What motivates your sweet paws may be completely different from mine.
Treats are often a useful tool in your reward arsenal. But toys, praise, and other rewards are options too.
Clickers have the benefit of a consistent sound. But they’re not for everybody. If you opt for a clicker, you will need to teach your gal that click means “good job!”
Here's a Video to Get You Started
Train Your Dog Sit Command
Sit is the mother of all commands. It helps you let your pup know that you want her to stop what he’s doing and sit down. Luckily, it’s also one of the easiest to teach.
- 1Hold a treat close to your dog's nose. Let your pup get a good whiff.
- 2Slowly move your hand up and back. As your dog’s front goes up, its back will go down.
- 3Once her pants hit the pavement, say "sit" and give her the treat along with lots of praise.
Repeat this exercise a few times every day. When she gets the hang of it, have her sit before you go out the door, before you serve her dinner, when guests arrive, etc.
PRO TIP: The best way to prevent or replace unacceptable behavior is to substitute good behavior. ‘Sit’ is often the go-to command. For example, rather than saying, “Don’t jump!” say “Sit.” It is much easier for a pup to understand a positive command (do something) than a negative one (don’t do something).
Train Your Dog Stay Command

It’s best to teach this command after your girl has mastered ‘Sit.’
- 1Ask your dog to sit.
- 2With a flat open palm like a traffic cop, say, "Stay."
- 3Once her pants hit the pavement, say "Sit" and give her the treat along with lots of praise.
- 4Slowly take a couple of steps back while keeping your traffic cop arm up.
- 5If she stands, use your failure feedback and sit her back down.
- 6Repeat once she's gotten it, gradually move a bit further away.
A stay may be challenging for dogs with low attention spans, but teaching them to stay will help them comprehend the value of delayed gratification.
It will also give you the freedom to trust that your dog will not bolt when you need your dog to be calm and collected.
PRO TIP: You may want to establish a release command to tell your dog that it’s OK to get up from a sit. I use “Come,” but your mileage may vary. You may also want to establish a failure feedback sound or word. I use a sound like the first ‘ah’ in, “ah, ah, aaaah,” or would it be “uh, uh, uuuh”? It’s tough to write, but the message is clear to my little girl.
Train Your Dog Come Command

‘Come’ can be a tough command. When you say “Come,” you are asking your dog to quit doing something they’re enjoying and cater to your whims. Or at least that’s how they see it.
But this is also among the most important. It will keep your pup from straying too far away and keep your dog from a laundry list of hazards.
- 1Put on your dog's collar and leash.
- 2Tell her to stay.
- 3Step away.
- 4Bend or squat to her eye level and say, "Come" while gently pulling the leash.
- 5When she gets to you, reward her with great enthusiasm with delicious treats.
Once your dog has learned to come on a leash, move to an enclosed area free from distractions, or at least as much as possible, and continue the practice off-leash. Vary locations so that your pup doesn’t think that ‘Come’ only applies in one area.
If all else fails, in a crisis, run away from your dog, calling her with great excitement.
Subtext: “Hey, the party is over here!”
Your dog may assume that you want her to go the way you are facing…as a canine pack leader would. Plus, who doesn’t love a game of chase?
PRO TIP: Always reward your dog when she comes. You have asked her to give up something, so it’s only fair that she gets something in return. If you say “Come,” then snap on a leash and take them home from the park. Well, they may not be so keen to come the next time. NEVER say, “Come” in an angry voice. Getting mad will only make your pup want to run away…not come. Positive reinforcement works; anger doesn't. For more on positive training, check out this blog at theonlinedogtrainer.
Combining The Hairy Trinity
Now that your dog knows the hairy trinity of commands, you are ready to combine them.
Go through the following commands in order:
- 1"Sit"
- 2"Stay"
- 3"Come"
- 4Rinse repeat
See how that works? Clever, huh?
With these three basic commands, you have a solid base for expanding your common vocabulary and knowing how to train your dog in basic commands.
These three commands have been a trifecta for my little girl and me. I hope they are the same for you and yours.